Saturday, Sep 19, 2009
2009.09.19
Ms Kelley,
Thank you for writing your
Play the Race Card article. I find it at once truthful and very well-written.
You know, Ms Kelley, we cannot teach those who wish to continue grasping backward ideas. We cannot awaken them to more evolved perspectives.
I have lost count of the number of times a fellow white male, jumping to a stupid assumption that I probably think as he does, has shared with me, in private, a clearly racist comment. It is often smilingly shared in the form of whispered riddle, a riddle joke question. The fellow, were he rather aware of his motivations, might realize as I do that he is "innocently" seeking to bond with me as a fellow White Man.
As one who relates every bit as keenly to the native Nigerian or Nicaraguan or Nepalese as to a caucasian, I cringe when I hear those comments. Usually when I hear one of those comments, I call it what it is - possibly placing the word "racist" in my response - in a mild and non-accusative manner, to that fellow white man. And I quickly and politely end the conversation: no matter how intently he protests my observation, no matter how clearly his words and demeanor might suggest racism present, I know, his ego absolutely will not permit him to be honest about racism, even when it was so politely and mildly identified. I usually simply walk away as he continues to protest my pointing-out his racist words.
I walk away without further ado because I know that I lead the racist beyond his racism. Were I to foolishly stand with him and continue to debate my point would be not only meaningless, but also destined to raise the temperature of both my blood and his.
I do always hope, in such circumstance, that I had nourished, a tiny bit, in him, growth beyond such darkness as racism represents.
More often than I hear a clearly racist comment to which I can respond, as above, with a conclusion that the speaker is indeed racist... I hear a less-easily-categorizable comment, one which
may represent racism, but one which I'd be foolish to challenge; in those instances, when in the past I did challenge the fellow white man, suspecting racism, I would invariably hear an absolute denial of racism. True, within the denial, I may have heard one or two more "hints" that racism were present, but I lacked evidence ample enough to warrant calling a probable racist a possible racist.
So, in the latter circumstance - where I suspect I've heard racism but am not wholly confident that I did - I ignore the comment, without response, and quickly and abruptly exit the conversation.
Racism, Raina, is, as often as not, a deeply-embedded,
evolutionarily-embedded, intent to have one's genes prosper and promulgate through succeeding generations of the specie by eliminating whatever near-genetic-relatives might compete for natural resources both would pursue. So it is that our human ancestors - yes, yours and mine did also - eradicated their near-relatives among the upright-walking humanoid primates. And so it is that to this day, a human is statistically more likely to wave to an unknown neighbor, from down the street in the same home subdivision, if that neighbor is walking the neighborhood than to that same unknown neighbor were the two to pass along a grocery store aisle.
Relatedly, many modern white people, unknowingly, wear racism as a outward indicator that the wearer's animal instinct wants to rid itself of a creature, easily identified - by skin color - as "not-kin", and so protect nearby resources from consumption by that other-skin-colored individual. The white "racist", then, is unaware of his real motivation: he may have consciously applied to a black person the status of "nigger" only as a side-effect of having unconscoiusly applied to that black person the status of "certainly, non-kin". This enables the white "racist" a means by which to justify treating the black person with less accord than would be granted a fellow white person who is inherently more likely to be closely related genetically and is thus granted "kin selection" treatment, as the evolutionary biologists might call such courtesy toward ones most likely to be genetically related.
Racism, then, is usually nothing more than the conscious reflection of unconscious, self-interest-supporting motivations.
We will not succeed in convincing the racist to grow beyond his stupid, immature views, then.
But, doing as you have done - writing well, speaking well, calling a, um, calling a spade a spade... you are contributing measurably to the total knowledge available to those who, rather than being satisfied with the status quo of his conscious prejudices and his unconscious biases, seek growth. And, perhaps, in so doing the physical child of the racist can be reached, and taught. Nourish the best and highest intentions even abong the racist. Perhaps we can, in that way, gradually help our specie to move beyond racism.
Michael David Holland
Atlanta